Ok, so this is my first go at this and to be sure, I'm not really curious about what people think of what I write as much as I'm just in real need to get my thoughts down. This is a topic I'm sure has been touched upon so many times and will probably never get rectified any time soon....after all, how many times do any of us need to ask that same old question..."why cant I find someone to connect with?"
Over 6 billion people on the planet and few of us actually find that true connection with another human being. So few of us truly fall in love and find that person who truly has our back through anything and everything. Most of us settle or reside to the thought that this is as good as it gets or this is all Im good enough for. While some of us end up marrying a woman or man who is a good person but none to pleasing to look at and then we end up fantasizing about people you see in magazines or movies. Others really give up and end up with someone who treats them like crap and abuses them mentally or physically till there is nothing left of em.Then there are those who find someone really good and yet find some flaw or exscuse to end the relationship because there was just that something missing.
Thats really what this is all about...finding that person that you connect with on a level that transends looks or flaws or anything that allows us to end a relationship no matter how good it might be. Those who give up to abusers obviously find it so difficult they are willing to take the abuse shown to them by those who supposedly love them. Is it really that hard or do we just make it so difficult?
I am single and have dated my fair share of women and have yet to really find that deep connection. I look at how I came to this thought and wonder do I just fit into that category of "the grass is always greener" syndrom? I have dated gorgeous woman and not so attractive woman and yet the result is always the same...there is always a feeling that we just never connected, that they didnt understand me or visa versa. There is always that x-factor or intangible that was never there. I have even on occasion found myself nearly ready to just "settle". Like perhaps Im looking for something that isnt there to begin with. I am asking for too much.
On the flip side of that, there has also been moments where I thought I was connecting with someone and they didnt have that same feeling I did. Causing me to ask what is it about me thats not enough? Why cannt I find someone who likes me as much as I like them.
Heres the thing...we find someone who is attractive and a great person, but they spend so much time in the gym that you wonder why cant this person just relax once in a while. Or, you find someone who is intellectual and caring but then you ask yourself why cant they take more time to excercise cause they may be a few pounds over weight. Of course you might find that person who matches your expectations of a healthy body yet they are a first class a-hole or b**ch. Then you think I just want a person with a good heart but that good heart might not have such an appealing look.
I know Im not the only one asking these questions or having the same thoughts...I know this because I hear everyone say the same damn things..."why cant I?" Why cant I find this or why cant I find that?...Even better is the thing a person hears from a friend..."Why cant my boyfriend/girlfriend be more like you?" A question we have all pushed in the face of another friend we know likes us but we dont give them the chance they might actually deserve.
Why are we never satisfied? What are we really looking for and will we ever find it?
